10 Signs To Know If Someone Is Playing With You
Have you ever met a guy you really liked but was only interested in playing games? If so, you’ve probably experienced it and know how annoying and distressing it can be. Knowing that someone you genuinely enjoy being around is just using you or playing around with you for no reason is not the best feeling in the world. You must be able to recognize the telltale symptoms of a man playing you in order to anticipate what will happen.
1. He Doesn’t Call You When He Says He’s Going To
Given that life can get in the way occasionally, it’s feasible that he will occasionally lose track of time if he is working late on a huge project with a pressing deadline. However, if this occurs more than once or twice, it’s a surefire indication that you’re simply not a priority for him at this time.
If a guy is genuinely interested in developing (or maintaining) a true relationship with you, he will think about you and remember to call.
2. He Compliments You All The Time
Although it may appear that someone is giving you praise out of love, in reality, they are frequently given out of a desire to boost your self-esteem. And it’s challenging to recognize the true problems at hand while you’re feeling exceptionally confident.
In general, a man can be playing you if he is always complimenting you. Making you feel good is acceptable, but if he compliments you too much, he might be trying to divert your attention from something else.
3. He’s Often Late And Doesn’t Call To Let You Know
I understand that there are many unforeseen circumstances that can cause people to be late (traffic jams, car troubles, being stuck at the office), but a quick call from his cell phone will ease your concerns and inform you that you have a few more minutes to try on the other outfit you were still debating.
The key takeaway here is to respect other people’s time. We can overlook tardiness, even persistent tardiness (some individuals just aren’t good at estimating how long something would take), but we can’t excuse someone who doesn’t phone to say he’ll be a little late.
That is unacceptable and indicates that he is not particularly worried about you.
4. He Only Calls Or Texts Late At Night
Or, you’re a booty call. If a man is only messaging you at odd hours of the night, how much could he actually care about you? This is a huge clue that he is playing you.
If he genuinely liked you, he would talk to you frequently during the day to find out how your day was.
5. He Doesn’t Show Up At All (And Doesn’t Call) When You Have Plans To See Him
OK, ladies, getting stood up is a “one strike and you’re out” offense unless he was (verifiably) comatose in a hospital somewhere. There isn’t a single solid justification for this (apart from the one mentioned above), and if you stay with him after such a move, you’re in for an emotionally turbulent ride that is almost certain to be unsuccessful.
These days, cell phone service is superb (unless he’s a lumberjack working in the great North Woods), therefore this one is unacceptable.
6. You Don’t Go Out In Public On Dates
If you believe that having date evenings at home is “more romantic,” this is a very serious warning sign. The way he says this is clearly an attempt to trick you.
In truth, he doesn’t want to go out with you because he doesn’t want to run the danger of you two bumping into any other girls he’s dating. Just to cover his own back.
7. He Has Rules About How Often He Can See You
A “Wednesday Poker Night” for the guys, or something like that, is one thing.
But if he’s only willing to meet up every other weekend (with the exception of a kid custody dispute), that’s a sure sign he’s keeping his options open and still looking around for something better (at least in his opinion – he just isn’t aware that you’re the greatest thing available!).
8. You Never Meet His Friends
The two of you meet each other’s friends if you are romantically linked and the sentiments are genuine. Together, you become immersed in one another’s life. And if the man you’re seeing isn’t doing that, he’s performing a trick on you.
You can only assume that his buddies may not even be aware of you if you never get a chance to meet them. Does he really care about you if he isn’t talking about you to his friends? undoubtedly not.
This indicates that he is simply exploiting you for something else entirely.
9. He Knows Way More About You Than You Know About Him
It may be a sign that he is keeping something from you or doesn’t want to get too close to you if you find yourself speaking more than he does when you question him about himself throughout your chats.
Many guys are just not big talkers, but if he hasn’t told you facts about his job, upbringing, education, etc., and if he only gives you evasive responses when you ask him about these topics, he’s probably trying to keep you at a distance.
10. He’s Vague About His Whereabouts
Couples frequently share their daily activities and where they have gone. If your partner is being evasive when you ask him what he’s been up to, he might be tricking you.
He probably visited a place you wouldn’t enjoy and is reluctant to share it with you.
There is a good probability that this guy is not searching for a serious relationship right now, or at least not the kind you’re looking for if you notice even one of these red flags, let alone multiple of them.
Your best option is to leave politely, keep your self-esteem intact, and avoid looking back (even if he later calls and pursues you; it’s just a clue that he’s a liar with deeper problems).