10 Best Relationship Advice For New Couples
Your relationship might go something like this if real life were a romantic comedy. The ideal first date would involve you locking your eyes and knowing in your heart that someone is The One before you even say “hi.” Cut to a montage of couples spending time together, perhaps taking a tandem bike trip or two, while baking (clearly with flour all over the kitchen). Nobody was surprised to learn that relationships often progress less dramatically in real life than on screen. Although the early stages of a relationship are challenging to navigate, they may also make or break how long your relationship lasts.
10 Crucial Bits Of Advice For Beginning A New Relationship
1. Keep the Past in the Past
One of the biggest mistakes people make when dating someone new is bringing all their worries, fears, and bad relationship memories into their current relationship. Avoid oversharing, and keep your thoughts and interactions centered on getting to know the person you’re dating.
2. Never Take Your Partner for Granted
It is crucial to understand that everyone has a breaking point and that, if their needs are not met or they do not feel heard by others, they will probably find it elsewhere. Make your partner feel valued and respected as a result, as this is crucial.
3. Talk About the Future Early On
Although you shouldn’t concentrate on the past, you should at least slightly concentrate on the future. However, if marriage is a non-negotiable for you, you don’t want to wait until after a year of dating to find out that they have no interest in getting hitched. Of course, you shouldn’t inquire how many children they want before the salad course is served on date #1. It’s not always enjoyable to discuss topics like life goals, religion, marriage, and politics, but it’s important to bring up your deal-breakers so that, at the very least, you’ll be on the same page whenever you start to envision a future together. Additionally, be clear about your dating goals, whether they are short-term flings or more serious relationships.
4. Don’t Make Comparisons
It’s simple to jump right into comparing your relationship to other relationships or partners, but doing so will only make your present partner angry and won’t help you at all. Ask yourself these queries instead: Are you in a relationship with someone to outdo them? Are you trying to win other people over with this relationship? Or are you in a relationship with your partner because you admire them?
5. Be as Kind to Each Other as You Were the Day You Met
Couples can lessen the likelihood that they will come to resent one another by abstaining from frequent criticism and choosing positive reinforcement instead. Furthermore, even the slightest praises or actions can be a wonderful way to express your love for one another.
6. Make Sure You’re Attracted to The Person, Not The Idea Of a Relationship
Sometimes, our need to be in a relationship is so strong that we fail to see the fact that we are more drawn to the idea of a relationship than the person we are with. You run the risk of forcing a spark or putting other people in boxes they don’t belong in if your search for Happily Ever After consumes all of your thoughts. Red flags are ignored since your mind has already convinced you that this must be true. Instead, consider your companion honestly. Pretend they are not The One. Still, would you want to spend time with them? If you like their company so much that you don’t care if they are “The One,” you are probably drawn to them and not just for a romantic relationship.
7. Look at Actions More Than Words
If someone is unavailable today, it doesn’t matter if they plan on traveling in the future. In this situation, you need to be careful to interpret behavior rather than blindly accepting the speaker’s words. On the other hand, if your partner introduces you to their family and friends, there’s a good probability that they intend for you to be a long-term part of their life.
8. Make Sure You are Meeting Your Partner’s Needs
In loving relationships, we work to satisfy both our own wants and those of our partners. Positive sensations keep flowing when that exchange is mutually satisfying. When it isn’t, things go south and the relationship is over.
9. Don’t Skip the Sex Talk!
It should go without saying that if you’re uncomfortable discussing your sexual health with your partner—including STD tests, history, etc.—you’re not ready to be intimate (or maybe they’re not someone you should be intimate with). As you listen to their opinions without passing judgment, discuss your own preferences, dislikes, and areas of comfort (or discomfort). Oh, and don’t forget that every couple has a distinct idea of when it is “appropriate” to get intimate (forget the “three-date rule” and any other rules that are utter BS) and that it is not enough for one partner to feel ready alone.
10. Don’t Embellish the Truth or Brag
For both men and women, boasting is a major turnoff. It’s unnecessary to feel the need to impress your partner over and time again, especially if they already like you. Without mentioning all of your life’s achievements, you can still be proud of who you are.